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PostPosted: Sun Jul 24, 2011 9:36 pm 
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We need a post on ANGER MANAGEMENT for ANGLERS


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PostPosted: Sun Jul 24, 2011 11:53 pm 
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Mr Big Fish wrote:
We need a post on ANGER MANAGEMENT for ANGLERS


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Mr Big Fish wrote:
We need a post on ANGER MANAGEMENT for ANGLERS


Just go FISHING....Will teach you a lot of patience....


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Christopher Rodrick wrote:
Mr Big Fish wrote:
We need a post on ANGER MANAGEMENT for ANGLERS


Just go FISHING....Will teach you a lot of patience....


True! I second! However...... If 12 trips are not fruitful and lots of other personal/work/career issues are not going anywhere but down a road leading to more complications, one does tend to throw a tantrum/fit.... Well that person is not me I caught some nice tilapia yesterday 400gms, 2 of em..... I'm happy, more so found a different fruitful place for fishing and have come very close to making my feeder..... So.... Its all happy happy.....
No anger management required.....

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I was about to start a new thread, aimlessly, but thankfully i found this one.

I just came back from a home-coming party that one of my climber friends, threw to share his experience of summit-ting Stok-Kangri(6150 Mtrs=20110 feet above mean sea level) in Leh; and it got me thinking about the similarities between all outdoors sports.

Here are men, climbing in desolate surroundings, to find solace, to find peace. The only driving force behind this mad adventure : " one step at a time". This one phrase drives all climbers, to take that one extra step, one step at a time, and to not think about the imminent enormity of the task they have undertaken. Their conquest of the summit is not driven by my understanding about the misgivings about our ego, but by just taking that one extra step, one step at a time. Such simplicity, in the undertow of such a Herculean task, yet such humility.

Every time I meet these friends after a climb, they're always a little different from before they made the climb. Its always a very subtle change, one that I think I notice and one that makes them just a little distant from the crowd. They realize what they have achieved but are unable to express to us, the non climbers, the nuances of their drive. Their ambivalence about their achievement within the humility they feel in their conquest, unable to express their state of being.

I feel the same way about fishing, and i TOO, feel the inability to express the gratitude towards the solitude Angling brings me. While, the limits of physical labor and strain may not compare to climbing, but the exhilaration of making that one extra cast, one cast at a time, time and time again, is so similar to the one step the climbers take. The patience learnt from learning that one cast at at time, leads us to that elusive state of being one, with the waters, is an exquisite state of being, I'm sure non anglers don't not relate to.

I'm an angler 'coz it teaches me how to live my life. It's so much more that just fishing my brains out, but what the hell...that's just me :D :D :D

What about you?!


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Bobbychyma,

I agree with you, angling is a state of mind reached after a long and hard apprenticeship !

Anger should not enter into this equation.

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bobbychyma wrote:
I just came back from a home-coming party that one of my climber friends, threw to share his experience of summit-ting Stok-Kangri(6150 Mtrs=20110 feet above mean sea level) in Leh; and it got me thinking about the similarities between all outdoors sports.

Here are men, climbing in desolate surroundings, to find solace, to find peace. The only driving force behind this mad adventure : " one step at a time". This one phrase drives all climbers, to take that one extra step, one step at a time, and to not think about the imminent enormity of the task they have undertaken. Their conquest of the summit is not driven by my understanding about the misgivings about our ego, but by just taking that one extra step, one step at a time. Such simplicity, in the undertow of such a Herculean task, yet such humility.

Every time I meet these friends after a climb, they're always a little different from before they made the climb. Its always a very subtle change, one that I think I notice and one that makes them just a little distant from the crowd. They realize what they have achieved but are unable to express to us, the non climbers, the nuances of their drive. Their ambivalence about their achievement within the humility they feel in their conquest, unable to express their state of being.

I feel the same way about fishing, and i TOO, feel the inability to express the gratitude towards the solitude Angling brings me. While, the limits of physical labor and strain may not compare to climbing, but the exhilaration of making that one extra cast, one cast at a time, time and time again, is so similar to the one step the climbers take. The patience learnt from learning that one cast at at time, leads us to that elusive state of being one, with the waters, is an exquisite state of being, I'm sure non anglers don't not relate to.


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You spoke my heart out Bobby :)

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Felt very nice reading your post Bobbychyma! Spot on!


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Chyma...the great FB :D :D :twisted:


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Chyma...the great FB :D :D :twisted:


FB bole to?!

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Well said Bobby!!


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bobbychyma wrote:
Ibut the exhilaration of making that one extra cast, one cast at a time, time and time again, is so similar to the one step the climbers take. The patience learnt from learning that one cast at at time, leads us to that elusive state of being one, with the waters, is an exquisite state of being, I'm sure non anglers don't not relate to.

I'm an angler 'coz it teaches me how to live my life. It's so much more that just fishing my brains out, but what the hell...that's just me :D :D :D

What about you?!


I loved your post Bobby ......One extra cast .. one cast at a time .... Me and Santo did that once on a trip together ........ fluffing arms nearly came off .......but the exhiliration of it all was ............painless LOL ...Ask Santo


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bobbychyma wrote:
MM wrote:
Chyma...the great FB :D :D :twisted:


FB bole to?!

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:evil: Fishing Baba :evil:


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MM wrote:
bobbychyma wrote:
MM wrote:
Chyma...the great FB :D :D :twisted:


FB bole to?!

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:evil: Fishing Baba :evil:



Hhahahahahaha....thats so funny! :D


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I like all the smileys on this post....


Great going guys...
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Fredfish wrote:
I loved your post Bobby ......One extra cast .. one cast at a time .... Me and Santo did that once on a trip together ........ fluffing arms nearly came off .......but the exhiliration of it all was ............painless LOL ...Ask Santo


Fred, seeing you cast is a dream come true and its worth losing a arm.. :lol: .. yes, some crazy fishing we did, great experience. Let’s do it again.. :D


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long long time back, when tackle was limited.. one rod and one reel, 2 or 3 lures and just one spinner...... very heavy rain, coffee coloured water, ankle deep mud on the banks.. heavy action rod, 20 lb line and 3No mepps... casting form 7 in the morning till 5 in the evening. at the end, one murrel of 2 Kg...............

While a it, in company of your friends, our lovely country side..... priceless


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santosh wrote:
long long time back, when tackle was limited.. one rod and one reel, 2 or 3 lures and just one spinner...... very heavy rain, coffee coloured water, ankle deep mud on the banks.. heavy action rod, 20 lb line and 3No mepps... casting form 7 in the morning till 5 in the evening. at the end, one murrel of 2 Kg...............

While a it, in company of your friends, our lovely country side..... priceless


:D :D :D
we've all been there, i'm sure, in our own way.....good times!!


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Good times.. :D :D


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A fellow is'nt thinking mean-----Out fishing!
His thoughts are always good and clean----Out fishing!
He never harbours any grudges then,
Or wants to harm his fellow men,
A fellow is at his best when-----Out Fishing!!!


The above was on a wall plaque at the entrance of the now defunct Chetput Lake Fishing Club,Chennai, back in 1960 and run by the PWD. I had the pleasure of being a member from 1960 to about 1969.


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Well said. By the way, How are you? Its been a long time since we saw your last post.


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As well as can be Apoo, thanks you very much for enquiring, and I hope you are the same.Mostly i do hope you are catching plenty of fish and enjoying yourself wherever you may be.
Best,
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buy a paintball gun, buy some paintballs, go to a paintball field, and play, after that you will be so stoked your anger will disperse. Get a book/MP3 player zone out every now and then... just a thought


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Subject: Anger
Aristotle observed over 2,500 year ago, that: “Anyone can become angry — that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way — this is not easy.”

Anger is an instrument of exercising control – because angry people get what they want. To them, their anger is a precious thing. And thus it is not uncommon that people would hold on to anger for months, even years. Why? Because their anger brings them some pay-off. Using anger is a way for people to express a feeling of ‘not good enough’ towards people around them, their surroundings and every other thing that they can blame.
How do you know if you have anger inside you?
 Do you overreact to situations which you later regret?
 Are you often upset over things or have a recurring grudge?
 Has anyone other than the one you were angry with ever received your angry outburst?
 Do people try to appease you only to stop you from getting angry?
 Are other people, including you, scared of your anger?
 Have you noticed a negative impact on the people you live or work with due to your anger?
 Have you ever become violent when you were angry?
These questions are difficult to face, yet we are all guilty of using anger sometime or the other, and sadly, very often on our loved ones.
What can you do?
Most people think the opposite of expressing their anger is suppressing it; however what they need is to calm themselves from the inside. It is not about controlling the external behavior only, but also modifying your inner response.
Anger is a natural feeling, hence suppressing is never a solution. It only makes the person eternally hostile, cynical and passively-aggressive. Anger may not be a bad thing, yet one must consciously choose to express it with control and civility and never violently.
Some helpful tips on how to deal with this emotion:
1. When you are angry, don’t speak – Silence will give us the time to gain control over the emotion which otherwise is controlling us. This way you are also certain that you have not hurt the feelings of others, and have not allowed the matter to aggravate. Remember, angry words will receive unpleasant responses.

2. Shift your focus from those who tend to make us angry – It is strange that some people enjoy the spectacle you make of yourself when you are mad with anger. They think, and quite rightly that they control your mood. You must break that notion that they hold so much worth so as to make us angry. Being indifferent to them would discourage them to provoke us.

3. Use logic to deal with anger – By using a logical dialogue in your mind, you can remind yourself that the anger you feel is not fully rational and will not help you, and rather make things more complex. In this manner, you can train yourself to ‘argue’ with the feeling and gradually conquer it.

4. Be kind to others – A very generous and uplifting approach to heal yourself is by understanding that the other person may not have any malicious intent after all and has unknowingly and unintentionally created a situation for you to get angry. Being kind will restore your inner calm and help you be less angry.

5. Value peace and try not to ‘sort it out’ every time – At times, it would be a wise to weigh the expression of anger to the unrest it would create. Peace is the reward of your forbearance and it surely requires great maturity. The urge to ‘sort it out’ would gradually subside. An angry outburst causes lot of corrosion to the environment, which ironically one may have to be in, long after the anger has subsided.

6. Focus on something else – When we are overcome by the feeling of anger, all our energy and mental focus is concentrated on that one matter which has angered us. We find ourselves incapable of thinking of anything but that which has made us angry. Consciously choosing to focus on a pleasant and positive thought is the best remedy for deflecting our energy to the positive feeling.

7. Value your dignity – Generally speaking; people who get angry are also those who are full of remorse, whether or not they acknowledge it. Because being angry makes us speak or do things which we do not feel proud of later on. In fact we want to forget how irrationally we behaved and secretly try to undo the unnecessary and often disproportionate damaged caused by our anger. If we choose our dignified and refined demeanor over our anger at all times, we may learn to express it more politely and eventually have more control over ourselves.

8. Recognize the signs – Sadly, this is something others can do better for us. Nevertheless, there exists a definite pattern in our anger. Recall and analyze what is common in the situations that you are angry – it could be a specific person, a procedure, a particular incident which triggers your ‘hot button’ or may be when you are stressed or tired. Avoid them, or at least be more alert and aware in these circumstances.

9. Have more realistic expectations – Angry people demand fairness, appreciation, acknowledgement; basically they want things to go their way, always. This is not a real and justified image of the world. What you expect the world to be decides how you respond to how the world actually is! One must learn to accommodate and also be content with ‘what is’ and not express anger and disappointment for ‘what should be’. Be less demanding and critical of others and avoid fault finding.

10. Smile and be happy- Smile at children playing, smile at the person who serves you, smile at your co-worker, spouse, neighbor. It reduces your stress; it gets you another smile in response. It makes anyone happy. A happy person is less likely to get angry too easily and for too long.

Keep smiling


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